Confessions of a Newlywed Part 2

Excited to present part 2 of our interview with newlywed Michelle! Read last week’s post for the first part, and some fantastic, pertinent advice on what not to do, what TO do, and just for entertainment’s sake! The best part for you all? She was not a client of mine, so this is un-biased straight-from-the-heart sharing 🙂 Enjoy!

Michelle and Calvin's wedding

Who was your favorite vendor and why?

It is a tie between BTP Productions and Galen Ducey Photography.

BTP Productions – Bryan Fagundes was our DJ for the wedding. He was so entertaining and made our wedding flow so smoothly.

Galen Ducey Photography was AMAZING! We had both Dan and Galen photograph our wedding and they were so professional and prompt. They were there from make-up to breakdown of our wedding. All of our family members were so impressed with their professionalism and the beauty of their work! I highly recommend them!

You were a DIY bride – what worked and what didn’t by being DIY?

I feel like I am an exception for the DIY Bride as I genuinely wanted a small wedding. We had 70 guests at a small church with a reception in their courtyard following the ceremony. Our wedding was at 2pm and we only served hors d’oeuvres and cupcakes. We didn’t serve alcohol at our wedding reception as both my husband and I are not drinkers, which worked for us and kept the cost down!

I didn’t feel like I missed out by being a DIY bride as my wedding was simple and beautiful. I do feel like I missed out in the planning process as it was not fun – it was SO STRESSFUL.  Planning myself came at the price of many sleepless night and tantrums! My poor family got the short end of the stick, as they worked so hard at making my dream day a reality and weren’t able to enjoy the day like they should have.

My pearl of knowledge: If you decide to be a DIY bride, find it in your budget to at least have a day of coordinator so your friends and family can enjoy your day with you! Don’t miss out on the memories and photographs with your loved ones on your special day! You only get married once!—well hopefully 🙂

If you had to do it over, what would definitely not change and what would you do differently and how?

If I could do it over again I would hire a coordinator. Being the DIY bride my family had to work on my wedding day rather than enjoy the day.  Our total wedding only cost us $4,000 but in hindsight I would have GLADLY paid for a day of coordinator in order for all of my family to experience the day like I did. I can’t tell you how sad it makes me that I do not have pictures of my aunts in my wedding pictures because they were busy working my wedding instead of attending it. The stress of being a DIY bride is so intense! List after list, call after call, worry after worry. I literally couldn’t eat before or after the wedding because I was SO stressed things would be forgotten.

One thing I WOULD NEVER CHANGE is that we waited to see each other until the ceremony. It was magical as both of our families got to witness the love in our eyes and the emotion that filled the entire room.

Best advice you can give to soon-to-be brides?

Include your soon-to-be-husband in the planning. Try to include him in decisions as much as you can. You have to remember that it is not only your special day, but it is his too. Listen to what he wants and doesn’t want and compromise. My husband was easy. His only request was not to wear a jacket and that he HAD to wear blue! He was a big part in helping assign tasks for his family members so I didn’t look like a Bridezilla!

Big thanks to Michelle for taking the time to give her insight!!

Want some more newlywed input? We ask all our brides to fill out post-evaluation surveys about their wedding and would be happy to share the tidbits of advice they always give! Let us know and we’ll send some your way!

Photo by Galen Ducey Photography